Sunday, September 23, 2007

Staying positive

I'm usually a positive and happy person. I like cheering others, that is just who I am. Yes, I know people that are happier than me and more positive thinking than me. Here lately I have been having a problem with staying positive. I got sick a mth ago and still haven't gotton over it and we have had a hard year, but I usually don't let it get me down as much as I have lately. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem at times or something positive to hold on to to help through the down times.
Yes, I Know! This too shall pass, but that isn't helping much.

6 comments:

Holly said...

I have difficulty with it. I am very fortunate; I seem to struggle with the constancy of being needed. It would seem like a good thing, but to hav some quiet within myself. Ah.

kitten said...

Yeah, I'm the one everyone calls on. I don't mind most of the time, but seem to get over tired and then don't always have someone to turn the favor. I think being over tired and money is the big problem at this time. AHHHHHHHHH! Quite! That would be nice!!

dawn said...

Sometimes the 'not feeling positive' is the result of a physical ailment. I suffered many years with tiredness, lack of drive and finding chores like vacuuming and opening the door for my kids to be overwhelming. I won't go into detail about the path, but I have found what has worked for me and for our one daughter who suffered a severe infection at 6, and who for 5 years after, had bouts of lethargy.

We take B-50 vitamins at night, just before bed, along with vitamin D (400 mg), vitamin C (1000mg) and calcium (350mg). I have found that taking these, especially B and D, that I sleep really hard, and wake up with more energy. Having the good sleep helps the mood too, and if you are not well, you may be lacking sleep, which leads to lack of activity, which leads to lack of sleep, and the spiral down continues. I found with better sleep, I had more energy, did more, was more physically tired but felt better and then I sleep better. My daughter at 10 would cry because she had to do dishes (she did them since 5), it wasn't a daunting task, but she was so tired. I make her take the vitamins when she gets this way, and it clears up within a day or two. She knows now to take them, and takes them on her own.

Also, I went through a short period of feeling less positive earlier in the year, so I started taking St. John's Wort. It is suppose to be for depression, but the bottle says it is for more energy. I think I took them for about 3 weeks to a month, then missed them every once in a while, until I wasn't taking them at all.

I don't know what degree you are feeling less positive, but those are a couple of things you could try. I have a friend who went to the psych ward for a couple weeks and afterwards she was reading about natural things, and it said in the book to take B vitamins at night. She told me this after I was telling her about having my daughter take them, so it was cool that what I discovered on my own, had scientific merit. Sorry for going on. I hope this helps a bit.

Joy T. said...

Here for Fun Monday but stayed for this post. Everyone goes through these feelings at some time or another. And it sure isn't fun. Dawn gave some fantastic advice and I can vouch for these vitamins she mentioned as I take the exact vitamins she has listed here. Yes I do know Dawn, but just from blogging so we haven't sat down and talked vitamins together LOL I'm just shocked that she takes the same thing I do. Small world or what! So I'm a complete stranger and usually I lurk at most blogs, but I just wanted to come out of lurk mode to say...you are not alone.

Heather K. said...

I just need to have some time on my own every once and a while to reflect and to regain myself. I get so used to being mom, wife, and homeschooler that I forget that I am more than that. I was a person before all of that and will continue to be a person when that has passed. I don't want to lose touch with who that person is.

I am feeling much better now, after having a day to rest and spend time alone. Hubby also got a babysitter and took me out to dinner. He knew the chef so we got some freebies and even had a tour of the kitchen. It was nice. I want to make sure that we get to do stuff like this more than once or twice a year. I need more than that.

As for what pulls me out of a funk...a good cry followed by a long nap and a good meal. Knowing that I don't have to go through my funk alone helps, too.

Ami said...

I suffer from occasional depresssion, sometimes it's quite awful. If my cycle coincides with several small events or stressful occasions, my depression is just BLACK.

Mostly, I get through it by realizing that it's NOT something I did, it's just my inner self wacking out and that I will get better.

I have an anti-anxiety medication that I take on occasion, but it's rare.

{{{Hugs}}} to you.