Definition: bully -A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.
My son JB has had his 1st encounter with a bully at school. Dan and I have known about it because he tells us almost everything. Well, I told JB he needed to go to his coach or principal about this or I would. Dan said, no! He said, for JB to wait till he had enough then let the boy have it then we would go from there. I didn't agree, but stayed back. Well, Friday this little boy pushed JB's wrong button and JB swung on him. When JB tapped him on the head, then the boy started to leave, but JB knew in his heart that he needed to get his point across. He grabbed the boy's backpack when he tried to leave and hit him a few more times. When he let go the boy walked out, but came back in swinging. JB and this little boy passed a few more licks then separated. ABout the time the boy left out of the locker room, the coach walked in, and then JB ran home. When he got home he told me all about it. I didn't get onto him, but told him that when or if he got a paddling Monday to have the coach call me. I knew JB hit 1st and I know what he done was wrong, but I wanted to make sure the other boy got punished also. I waited by the phone all day Monday, but never got a call. When JB got home he told me that the whole football team had to do a lot of push ups and then coach called him and the other boy off to the side to talk. The coach asked JB 1st what had happen and JB told him the whole truth. JB said that he told the coach that I had gave him permission to tell most of what the boy said, then processed to tell what had happened to lead up to the fight. After JB was done telling his side of the story the coach ask the other boy. The other boy just said that JB has been trying to start a fight with him since he started school, but wouldn’t give a reason. This did not satisfy the coach because he couldn’t give a reason for JB wanting to fight him, but JB had gave him the reason of why he had wanted to. After the coach raising his voice a few times asking the boy, why, the boy broke and said JB was telling the truth. Coach told the boys that the reason he had made them all do a lot of push ups was because the other boys knew that this bullying was going on and didn’t report it. He told JB to come tell him next time and let him handle it and made the boy go to the next locker room. So, I guess in a way that Dan knew what he was talking about. Get the boy’s attention and let him know that he wasn’t going to let him push him around and he wasn’t tattle tale. I’m glad all this is over and hopefully there will be no more bullying. Dan and I told JB that he better not go around thinking fighting was the answer, but we felt he handle this correctly and was pleased on how the coach handled it also.