Friday, August 08, 2008

Gossip

Gossip :
Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature.
A person who habitually spreads intimate or private rumors or facts.
Trivial, chatty talk or writing.
A close friend or companion.

Idle, often sensational and groundless talk about others:
gossipry, hearsay, report, rumor, talebearing, tattle, tittle-tattle, word. Slang scuttlebutt. See words.
A person habitually engaged in idle talk about others:
blab, gossiper, gossipmonger, newsmonger, rumormonger, scandalmonger, tabby, talebearer, taleteller, tattle, tattler, tattletale, telltale, whisperer.


Light informal conversation for social occasions; A report (often malicious) about the behavior of other people; A person given to divulging personal information about others.


Compare backbiting.


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This is one word that gets on my ever loving nerves!
If anyone that reads my Blog is a gossip, I hope not to offend. This is my on personal opinion and rant. If someone is happy and can live with being a gossip, I have no problem. My problem is to a small group of “home” ladies. My problem is that “I” don’t fit in because I don’t gossip! (This is the 1st part of rant) I feel just because I’m not one to give you the latest scoop and dirt on someone that you don’t have anything to say to me. I feel that if I accept you for you then you should accept me for me. People should be able to have small talk with out having to have the latest news, someone’s faults or whatever! Plus, this same group of ladies asks if they could come visit my mom, I thought it would be a great idea since she doesn’t get out unless we go to the Dr and the only company is her kids and grand- kids. All these ladies did the whole time they were there was gossip among their selves and not once ask if my mom needed anything, talk with her or anything else. All their visit did was make momma nervous because she couldn’t hear half what was said and they were so loud. You don’t go to a sick person’s house and act like that in my opinion! You don’t have to act like they are dieing, you can help them laugh, but leaving them out and doing nothing but gossiping about others is no way to act!
(My 2nd part of rant) Is that a lot of gossip has been going around my family and it is causing a wedge between us. To me this is what gossip does. (Our family has always been so close knit.) If you have a problem with someone then go to that person don’t go around talking about them behind their back.
On my side of the family I have 4 nieces and I have always been very close to each one, especially one in particular. She and I have never fussed; I can’t say that with the others. I try not to be one that has favorites but SD and I have always had a special bond. Well, the other day SD and I got into a big argument, I mean major! She kept twisting my words and some had to do with somebody going around spreading gossip that wasn’t even ½ way true, all this did was had fuel to her fire, matter fact, it started the fire. (Which I didn’t know about most till 3-4 days after the big blow up) Plus, to my surprise she is going around still twisting my words and making what was small very huge.
Heck! Life is hard enough without all the extra drama and IMO; everybody has more than enough in their own world without sticking their nose in someone else’s. I know I do.
Well, I guess I’m over my rant! I just hope I didn’t offend anybody. Know I just need to figure out what I need to do with this group of ladies and my family.
Hope you have a happy!





7 comments:

Wendy Hawksley said...

Gossip is sometimes destructive (like when you say bad things about a particular person behind their back, and then it gets back to them, hurting their feelings).

And sometimes it is constructive - if done without naming names, and more to get things off your chest, than to accuse or slander.

The second is more commonly known as "venting", of course.

I can imagine the type of gossip you are talking about here - the kind that involves nothing more than silly clucking, usually by people who only know and tell half a story. This is part of what makes the talk so malicious!

I can't believe they visited your mother, and then paid absolutely no attention to her. That is beyond rude.

Wow... about the family situation, that is rough. Family can be a double-edged sword. I hope everything can be resolved!

hollysjoy said...

I think I'm lucky because I have a small family; that keeps from a lot of problems.

I try not to get too involved in big groups, jsut be polite and then "hang" with my good friends.

Good luck.

MOM #1 said...

I'm such a loner, I wouldn't know who to gossip about even if I wanted to, LOL. Actually they're all probably gossiping about me, but the joke's on them because "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a d***."

I hope you're able to get it all worked out with your family. I hate when anything comes between family members. It's so sad.

Joy T. said...

Great post! I hope it helped. I make a huge 20 mile detour when I hear people gossiping. Can't be bothered, don't want any part of it.

Jettied said...

I can sooooooo relate!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and sometimes I just wanna tell them off...but i don't wanna end up hurting anyones feelings....evan though they son't care about hurting ours! uggggg Iam so with you!!
And to not evan really include your Mom in and a decent converation...they are selfish!!
And I hate when they lie!! OOHH my gosh I could so go on!!! And i saty away from them sort..they only want to drag you down with them!!!

Pamela said...

I'm sorry that has happened.

I hope she soon sees her error and makes amends.

When I'm around gossips, I always wonder what is said behind my back.

karisma said...

Oh Hugs, smoochies, big barbie smiles!

You know I am of the opinion that if we ignore it, it goes away. Family has a way of passing things around in circles especially in a close knit family (like ours) I refuse these days to get into it. If it starts up I just yell at them all to their face. It is generally those who are not into the gossip that feel the pain the most.

You know I had a similar thing happen with someone close to me. Did not talk to me for days and I ended up saying to her. Have I done something to offend you? If so spit it out. You know if Ive got something to say I will say it to your face no matter what! She agreed and apologised.