Monday, July 07, 2008

I'm not dead....

Just so busy. I'm sorry I haven't had time to come and post or visit. I do want to thank those who have sent me an email to check on me and the one's who have commented on my last post. My mother has been more demanding of me; it's not that she is worse: I'm not sure what you would call it. She was doing very well. She had even drove herself to church and just seem to have a complete turn around, then she’s back down where she can’t give herself a bath. I don’t think it’s all her health, I think it’s more mental. We had been putting off her Last Will of Testament and her Living Will and I told her we needed to get it done, because we needed to get it signed while my little brother was off for vacation and I knew it would take a while to get it done. She went off on me! I found out then that my oldest niece had been hounding momma about what all she was going to get of mother’s. I reassured momma that I wasn’t trying to push her in her grave and I was having a hard time with it also. She got to acting a little better and I was able to go through most of her house; like she wanted and get all the legal stuff wrote up. I also was able to clean a bunch of junk out of her house. On top of dealing with momma, since my brothers don’t seem to know how to take turns, and dealing with my kids; my husband decided to let his real self show. He decided to be the biggest BUTT on the PLANET! So, not only have I been running so fast that I can’t catch up with myself; I haven’t had anything good to say. (Momma always said if you have nothing good to say; say nothing at all! LOL!) Dan Dan has decided that he picked the wrong time to mess with me and has decided to be really sweet. Not this week end, but the two before, he took the kids and I camping and swimming. I really needed that time out, but momma’s demanding didn’t slow down. I’m not really sure what this week holds and I hope momma will calm down a bit since we finally got all the legal stuff behind us.
I can’t promise I will be able to be online much to post or visit, but I really hope I do. I’m a little worried about what this school year is going to bring. I had to stop our schooling short last year and have never picked back up yet. With everything going the way it has, I went ahead and signed my middle child back in public school. (He wants to play football.) Even thou I wasn’t all that happy with it, I thought it may be best. Now, I’m worried about the other 2. Maybe momma will stop being so demanding of me, and we can work something out about schooling.
I hope to see you all more often and hope all is well!
Take care!

12 comments:

ChrisB said...

You have such a lot on your plate at the moment. It is very difficult trying to care for a parent (I speak from experience). I have been trying to get my mother to apply for some extra money (we call Attendance Allowance) but she is reluctant, however I have gradually taken on a lot more personal care for her which is very time consuming and she accuses me of just wanting the money. It must be quite hard for them to think about tying up all the legal aspects of their life. Hope the schooling works out OK.

MOM #1 said...

Sounds like you've had lots on your plate. Dealing with a demanding parent can be a very exhausting, frustrating, and humbling experience all wrapped up into one.

Just remember to take care of yourself too.

Good Luck! Come by and see us when you get the chance.

hollysjoy said...

Good luck with everything! I am glad you are getting some time away. I hope that school goes well for your middle son and that things get easy for you.

Junebug said...

What a rough time for you! I will be praying for you. I hope everything will work out for the best for your mom and the rest of your family. I hope you can get some help from your brothers.

karisma said...

You poor baby! I hope things start to look up for you! You are such a good person always looking out for you mom! Don't worry too much about the kids. Let them school themselves. You know its amazing what they can do when you give them the chance. I've back off quite a bit with what I make the boys do these days and they seem to get more done than I thought they could. Its much less stressful and leads to a happier family life. Take care. Hugs to you.

robinellablog said...

Glad you checked in! I'm watching my mother and MIL take care of their mothers and it is humbling.

I just hope I am as patient if either of them require that kind of care from me.

You are an inspiration. :-)

Jettied said...

OOHH Kitten sounds as if you have had some rough weeks! And i know with My husbands mom..We Just took her to dr today she gets so down and gets to thinking she can't do anything and than when ya least expect it she's running around again.
Men!!!
I do hope it gets better for you and I have missed your posts but with life so unpredictable you can't help it..just remember to take time out for yourself!!! You are a godsend to her evan if you don't feel it!!
Love and hugs!!!

lisaschaos said...

Good to hear from you and I do hope things calm down for you soon. XO I imagine I would feel very frustrated and cranky if I were in your momma's shoes.

SabrinaT said...

What a full plate you have! Remember your family needs you RESTED AND WELL!! So take time (even just 15 min a day) and go to a quiet place....

Jo Beaufoix said...

Wow Kitten, you have so much happening. Don't worry, we'll all be back when you are. Hugs.

Heather K. said...

I am so happy that you are okay. I was worried, but didn't want to intrude. Next time, I'm going to intrude. I miss you, girl.

Hang in there. I know what you are going through. My grandma just had another stroke. I'm trying to help her and my mom, but with a new baby and a new school year started, I'm swamped. If we make it through, we should join the circus. We'd make an awesome juggling act.

dawn said...

So sorry to find all this out at a late date, because I haven't been reading. I really hope things are improving. It is tough taking care of the parents and we got a small taste of it with Sirdar's parents. Fortunately things have improved with them, but it is a matter of time before we are full in again. I really hope your mama finds some help through another avenue. I am sure she is just lonely and perhaps depressed. I was talking to a friend whose mom is older and depressed and she said she seems to want someone to take care of her despite the lack of need. I found the same with Sirdar's dad for a short time after they were home, but he is much improved now and not so in need of help. I would check into that aspect of it should she not improve in being demanding.