Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Just when I needed you most

NOT LIKE THE SONG BY Randy VanWarmer, BUT JUST THE OPPISITE.
Thank you Jettie for my homemade journal book! It really did come in when I needed it the most! I had forgotten about giving you my home address until it came in the mail, so it was a wonderful surprise! Why did I say when I needed it most? My beautiful KB is going to be gone all this week because she is gone to church camp. This is her first time really away from home, except with family. Plus, I can't talk to her every night before she goes to bed. I think that's the hardest part. But, my baby is growing up and I know she is having a BLAST! She really needed this break because she has been helping me with momma so much.
The second reason this wonderful package came in when I needed it most:
Momma is getting to more than a handful! She is becoming very needy and can become mean as HELL! Before I could get a family meeting together my oldest brother told momma that I was going to put her on Hospice. He didn’t say that I was thinking of it, why I was thinking of it, or that I was going to ask everyone his or her opinion. Mom and I got into a heated argument. I told her why I was THINKING of this and that I wanted us to talk about it. After about an hour, she calmed down then told me why she didn’t want Hospice. She said that if we put her on Hospice and she went into respiratory arrest we would not be able to get her off Hospice fast enough to put her on a ventilator. She said that if we put her on Hospice and she went into respiratory arrest we would not be able to get her off Hospice fast enough to put her on a ventilator. So, I guess we will not do Hospice and wait till September to get help.
Well, I’m running out of time. Thanks again Jettie! You are a real sweetie!
Hope you have a wonderful day! Hopefully I will have time to come and visit soon!!!!!




8 comments:

MOM #1 said...

What a sweet gift. I'm glad it arrived right on time, that's how life can be sometimes.

It sure seems like you are having to make some difficult decisions regarding your Mom's health. I hope everything works out and that your Mom can view your care and concern with the love in which it is being given.

Sometimes when people are sick, they just aren't themselves.

Ami said...

You know, it sounds like your family can be a real pain in the butt. Your brother needs a swift kick there, at least.

I hope your little girl person has fun at camp, but I understand how it is to miss 'em.

((Hugs))

Anonymous said...

Sigh. Family.

I'm sorry to say, but your brother behaved like an ass. I hope your mom gives him a piece of her mind as well, or you do, because he's the one who deserves it.

Hang in there.

Attie said...

Well first of all..iam So glad you liked it!! I made it with you in mind..and a little bit of me!! I loved how the glitter and dew drops turned out!!
@nd...I agree..sigh..family!! Iam so sorry you are going threw this. i have had first hand the meaness one can dish out when they are in the same situation as your Mom. Very hard to deal with and understand!! And I bet you are mising KB!! Our Cece was gone for 4 total days in may..we couldn't talk to her either..very hard..I did alothough get the address and sent her a card!! She out of over 100 kids was the only one that got a card from home!! She felt pretty special!! Iam sending good wishes for better days your way!!
{{ hugs}}!!

ChrisB said...

What a lovely gift to cheer you up.

It's very difficult trying to do the right thing, regarding care for a parent. I know all about brothers putting their foot in it; mine does it with my mother. He comes in here for an hour once every so often, stirs her up and tries to tell me what I should be doing!

Pamela said...

that true. Hospice is a die with dignity... there is no calling an ambulance or ER or anything.

dawn said...

How beautiful and wonderful it came just when you needed it. It is so hard when parents age. I am finding Sirdar's parents to be so much more needy as well. They don't need physical help, but they want to spend more time with us, on their terms and it seems they want us to drop everything for them. I don't know if it is a sense of entitlement that happens with older people or that whole going back to childhood, feeling helpless thing. I think it is likely the latter and it is so tough to deal with.

storyteller said...

It's a lovely gift ... beautiful journal ... and wonderful bit of serendipity on the timing. I'm praying for you and your mom ... have been all along. Sorry I've not dropped by. I don't spend much time blogging these days but am trying to do a bit of catch up because I'm missing my 'virtual' friends.
Hugs and blessings,